For one month, unless I was specifically asked, I did not correct anyone's errors, tell them how to do anything better, or give any advice. I didn't tell anyone I was doing this. It was really hard because last month was the month many people I know had many errors in their blogs, in letters they sent clients, in art projects, and in life in general. In my mind, a good friend is someone who points out errors so you don't embarrass yourself but I have been noticing that people get totally PISSED OFF when you correct them instead of saying thank you. I totally do not get that. If you tell me I spilled tea on some art for sale, I'll send you a thank you card! If you catch a huge error in a proposal before I send it out, dinner is on me. If you tell me my husband might be a serial killer before he kills again, sweetheart, we're going to Hawaii on my dime. Most people over the age of 5 do not like to be corrected and will get very defensive when you remind them of the me, a name I call myself rule.
During the month I got a lot of emails and calls from friends that went mostly like this:
You have been awfully quiet. You must be busy or mad at me.
Uh, ok. The thing was, I had not been quiet! I had been as chatty and complimentary as ever and when I am mad, I say so. I am not sure what the lesson that month was yet. People were offended when I corrected stuff then were offended when I didn't.
I'm still laughing about it.
There's an experiment in change going on this month, too.
*The "even I" thing is not really fair. Even though I am stuck in my ways, my ways are adaptable to change.
I am sure there are grammatical errors in this post. I did not bother to proof read it- nobody asked me to.
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